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[–]censorshipment 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think I first heard of sexual fluidity by a weird-looking broad name Lisa Diamond. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lisa_M._Diamond

Lisa M. Diamond is an American psychologist and feminist.

She is best known for her 2008 book, Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women's Love and Desire. In this book, she discusses the fluidity of female sexuality, based on her study of 100 non-heterosexual women over a period of 10 years. She concluded that the term bisexual did not truly express the versatile nature of many of her subjects. Therefore, she calls "for an expanded understanding of same-sex sexuality".

Those hetero second-wave feminists who didn't want to be straight came up with this bullshit (along with compulsory heterosexuality), to my knowledge.

As a radfem myself, I've asked older bi women such as my mom what their brains are like lol like how do you like dudes and suddenly like chicks during your teens. My mom said she started liking girls at 16 when she joined a feminist group in '76. I always liked girls since my toddler years.

[–]Wanderingthehalls 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think that a fairly significant number of bisexual people can subconsciously choose to ignore their same sex attraction and focus on their opposite sex attraction when they first start to get crushes. Bisexuality is even still not always accepted as real, in the 80s or 90s or before it was barely acknowledged as a possibility. And homosexuality was generally seen by even the liberal public as something unfortunate to be accepted because it can't be changed. Someone feeling attraction to both sexes just focussing on their opposite sex attraction to make life 'easier' was really common. There may also be a factor, especially among women, of only accepting their bisexuality after they have had children.

Then when decades down the line something makes them realise that they are attracted to the same sex as well, you get the myth of sexual fluidity. It's not sexual fluidity, it's just finally reaching a point where you are more open to accepting something about yourself that used to scare you or meeting someone you are so strongly attracted to that it overrides your previous defence mechanisms. It can also happen the other way around where someone who has historically been exclusively same sex attracted meets someone of the opposite sex they are attracted to.

[–]PriestTheyCalledHimBisexual 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I,have met bisexual people who ignore or suppress their opposite sex/gender attraction.