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[–][deleted] 19 insightful - 5 fun19 insightful - 4 fun20 insightful - 5 fun -  (3 children)

How did we get an entire generation of people who think they can just claim to be something and then it's automatically true? And why do they keep trying to claim to be such lame things? Why not try to claim being cool things like being a witch or being the owner of Jeff Bezos's mega yacht?

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

My impression is that they don't want to be just ANY cool thing; note how they never claim accomplishments-- being a self-made millionaire, say, or a Harvard graduate... or even a witch. They seem uninterested in any identity that you can BECOME. Rather, what they claim is invariably an intrinsic quality: a sexuality, a "gender"... some aspect of individual personality, essentially. Not anything that you do; more just... who you are. The sort of stuff that can't be taught or learned, that you simply either have or you don't.

THAT is what they're going for, I think. Being inherently interesting. Except, of course: 1.] they aren't; and 2.] this isn't something that you can claim to be, anyway-- you know you are only if others recognize it in you, right? When one person after another finds you-- simply on the basis of your personality-- interesting; compelling; charming. It's like a nickname: you can't give it to yourself. So no wonder they're forever harassing people! But coercion doesn't work here: no matter what you force them to say, if people don't genuinely see you as interesting, then by definition... you're not.

Let's put it this way: have you ever heard of the "Mary Sue" phenomenon? Fictional characters whom the creator depicts as awesomeness personified... but in a strictly tell-don't-show manner? So it's just a claim with nothing to back it up? And the audience finds them thoroughly obnoxious as a result?

Well, the gender-people are real-life Marys Sues. Right down to their penchant for oh-so-Speshul, not-found-in-nature hair colors.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

THAT is what they're going for, I think. Being inherently interesting.

I wish these people would realize there is nothing inherently interesting or unique about being same-sex attracted!! It's just a flip of the coin for the possible sexual orientation people can have; you can be born monosexual or multisexual (two coins, Sky Daddy pulls out one coin and flips it at conception--boom, there's your sexual orientation)

Monosexual coin= 50/50 chance of being homosexual or heterosexual Multisexual coin = 50/50 chance of being bisexual or asexual (attracted to both sexes or neither)

I wish sexual orientation was taught in a neutral way without celebration or shame, it just is.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wish these people would realize there is nothing inherently interesting or unique about being same-sex attracted!!

From your lips to god's ear. Undoubtedly there are lots of well-meaning heterosexuals who intend this as a compliment, but it still "others" us. Which is the LAST thing that we need. Don't do us no favors, straight people! What's in our interest is to be seen-- finally-- as NORMAL. Not exoticized; not treated as a curiosity, or entertainment. Maybe that seems boring to them... but this only shows how privileged they are. You can only see normalcy as boring (and thus undesirable) if you take it-- and the safety/security that it confers-- for granted.