I got into a bit of a debate on reddit (yeah I know, shouldn't have expected this to end any other way). The topic was about a nonbinary (as of almost two weeks ago, she went by 'she' since 2018) character in the show Young Justice. Someone made the EXTREMELY offensive mistake of calling this character "she." This obviously upset the TRAs, who had to make sure he knew to use 'they/them' pronouns.
One person replied and made a joke about respecting pronouns (yes, of course he was downvoted like crazy for committing such a crime) and I replied to him (seeing as he clearly hasn't lost his sanity like most people) "It’s especially jarring when most of the people who are all “respect pronouns” also have 0 respect for gay people who hate the word queer."
This of course lead multiple downvotes and multiple people trying to "educate me" on how its totally ok to use "the correct terminology" (yes, someone actually called it that) But when I said that I, a gay person, find the slur 'queer' to be offensive, those fuckers actually had the audacity to downvote me. Yes, they went from "don't be offensive" to downvoting a gay person for being offended by a slur, all in the span of 2 comments.
I don't know why I thought it could go any other way, especially after everything that's happened the last few years (I've been around since we were on reddit) but it still gets to me sometimes, like right now. Just wanted to get that off my chest/vent/rant, and this is the only real safe space to do that. I've also never actually made a post before, only replied, so sorry if anything is incorrect
Update: About half of my comments got removed by mods, including this one, which had 9 downvotes at the time:
"So do you tell people not to use the word queer? Because THAT is offensive, but people just looove using it these days
Edit: why do all these people get to say misgendering is offensive, but when I, a gay person, say queer is offensive, I get downvoted? It really says a lot about how gay people are actually accepted here"
I think that really says a lot personally
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