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[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Honestly, I think that a lot of people-- particularly men-- have never believed there is any such thing as a lesbian... OR a bisexual woman. For real. They think that ALL women are straight. That, to be a woman, everything about you must revolve around men, your sexuality included. Attraction to other women basically doesn't count. After all, sex between women isn't really even sex, right? Just foreplay, at best. Till the real thing (i.e., a dick) comes along.

That's why, whereas bi men are typically dismissed as "really gay", bi women are typically dismissed as "really straight". Just slutty.

I wish that I was making this up.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh 100%. I believe this is how the vast majority of people think. Bi men are really gay. Bi women are really straight. And lesbians just hate men and are simultaneously a porn category for men. And that LGB is all about kink generally. I don’t think most people take the concept of sexual orientation seriously.

And while straight men fetishize lesbianism as a porn category, a lot of straight women fetishize lesbianism as an asexual vacation from men.