I don't know if she's been diagnosed with BPD, but I do know that her behavior and language here contains hallmarks of BPD, so she at least has strong borderline traits. Interestingly enough, BPD seems to be the one mental disorder that people don't fake having for clout. But people with BPD do commonly fake having other mental disorders for clout, attention, sympathy, etc. In fact, I would wager that they are the primary demographic that does this.

I ended up in a therapy group ironically because of the actions of my then abusive girlfriend with BPD and in that group more than 50% of the people had BPD (and the rest of us ironically tended to have complex PTSD generally related to abuse by a loved one with a Cluster B personality disorder). Every single person in that group below age 30 who had been diagnosed with BPD had some kind of pronoun/gender identity/trans/non-binary situation going on (nearly all female). It was insanity. This was a group with shifting membership, so the pronouns kept flowing in and out. Anyone who didn't notice the pattern merely didn't want to see the pattern or was afraid to be the target of BPD hostility. But it shouldn't be surprising because check out the diagnostic criteria in the DSM V. Diagnosis requires at least 5 of the following 9 criteria:

• Chronic feelings of emptiness

• Emotional instability in reaction to day-to-day events (e.g., intense episodic sadness, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)

• Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment

• Identity disturbance with markedly or persistently unstable self-image or sense of self

• Impulsive behavior in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)

• Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)

• Pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by extremes between idealization and devaluation (also known as "splitting")

• Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-harming behavior

• Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.