Positivity / WholesomeJK Rowling's acknowledgment of internalized homophobia as a common motivation for transitioning

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[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I guess overprotective/helicopter parenting would cover it, or Münchhausen's By Proxy (a bit of a stretch)?

[–]wendyokoopa1 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Well for my dad it was hands on hands off hands on. He was really controlling especially when I reached My 20s and they had their last break up. It's like asshole you had years Even leading up to me to learn how to be a parent. Even prior to my sister's birth. You took over my projects because tools I'd already learned how to kind of use were suddenly deemed dangerous for me to handle despite my silliness around them from time to time. I show I can do stuff then he'd cancel what I'd just shown I can do. My ex was similar. I understand his worries around the antique stove at his aunt's former place but then don't say in the next breath you want a wife that will help you cook or do cooking when you can't or don't want to. We can't live our lives on food from Chipotle or little Caesars.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I guess from their perspective, they're not sure what you're capable of, and don't trust you as an adult to let them know when you need help and when you don't, even though you're aware of your limitations and would let them know. It's frustrating, to say the very least.

[–]wendyokoopa1 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's rage inducing especially when it's a loving romantic partner who's already shown signs of sexism