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[–]wendyokoopa1 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Personally as an autistic I'm surprised no one addresses that issue. Not all autistic are lgb but many of them do interact with their world in non traditional ways. I myself am no exception. Growing up I loved games like contra and franchises like 🥷 🐢, running my toes in the mud under the swings after a rain. Yes gettin dirty. To a trans rights activist or wrong thinking school employee I might have been a prime candidate for puberty blockers, hormone blockers, and ultimately hormone replacement therapy. So lucky I grew up in the 80s and 90s. Yes many so called transgender are possibly asd but like an article posted pointed out we struggle to make friends and build our own version of a community. We're preyed upon like fresh roadkill at times. Seriously. Many of us view those in successful relationships whether is same sex or opposite sex as successful. Our parents seem thrilled if we master cooking and picking up after ourselves.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

I would've been in the same boat had I been born later. One of the major issues too is that autistic kids (and parents) will jump on the bandwagon of an explanation for why autistic kids feel different, and some parents would welcome the idea of sterilising their chil- I mean affirming their child's gender through 'gender' reassignment surgery.

[–]wendyokoopa1 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Yeah and it disgusts me God forbid autistics have children and families. God forbid we take up for ourselves. Sorry can you tell people tried to I can't think of the word right now. But can you tell they tried to do it?

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I guess overprotective/helicopter parenting would cover it, or Münchhausen's By Proxy (a bit of a stretch)?

[–]wendyokoopa1 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Well for my dad it was hands on hands off hands on. He was really controlling especially when I reached My 20s and they had their last break up. It's like asshole you had years Even leading up to me to learn how to be a parent. Even prior to my sister's birth. You took over my projects because tools I'd already learned how to kind of use were suddenly deemed dangerous for me to handle despite my silliness around them from time to time. I show I can do stuff then he'd cancel what I'd just shown I can do. My ex was similar. I understand his worries around the antique stove at his aunt's former place but then don't say in the next breath you want a wife that will help you cook or do cooking when you can't or don't want to. We can't live our lives on food from Chipotle or little Caesars.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I guess from their perspective, they're not sure what you're capable of, and don't trust you as an adult to let them know when you need help and when you don't, even though you're aware of your limitations and would let them know. It's frustrating, to say the very least.

[–]wendyokoopa1 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Totally it also didn't help that my loving boyfriend could be sexist

[–]wendyokoopa1 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's rage inducing especially when it's a loving romantic partner who's already shown signs of sexism