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[–][deleted] 27 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Lesbian dating app turned into an app for straight male rapists to try to prey on lesbians. I hope every lesbian deletes it or at the very least makes sure the woman they're meeting up with isn't actually a man with edited or fake photos.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I think a lot of people don't realize just how far photo editing technology has progressed, and I've seen it utilized on a self-declared pre-op trans woman's dating profile. The first pic was very well edited. The rest were not. It was kind of terrifying to see.

[–]julesburm1891 22 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah. They put up heavily-edited photos and try to take advantage of social niceties or use social blackmail when meeting in person. (This happened to a friend of mine.) It’s bad enough that when my now-fiancée and I first matched, she felt the need to state, “I was literally born a woman and I’m not interested in anyone born a man” a few messages in.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

My god. How terrifying for your friend. It's good she has you to confide in. And your fiancée is based. I would be thrilled to receive that message, and it's sad that lesbian dating has come to that.

I used the singular in my previous comment because I was referring to a particularly impactftul recent occurrence that really freaked me out. That same person liked my profile on another dating app a few days later and had an even creepier profile (including a gif of himself dancing suggestively in a thong while flashing his bare ass and covered groin). But I've seen it waaay too many times to count. Including today. I am very picky about who I'll meet in person, and I research people extensively before I even consider interacting with them. So I thankfully have not been successfully catfished. They also tend to disqualify themselves with really off-putting profiles. Overwhelmingly hyper-sexualized and male gazey. Even the less porny ones are just off.

[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, dating apps seem like an absolute nightmare now with predatory men catfishing. You show up to the date and some man is there and if you try to leave he screams transphobia. Nightmare.