LGB Erasurer/LesbianActually - My Sexuality is Not Defined By Men (And Nope I'm Not Part of the Problem. No Siree Bob.)

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[–]jim_steak 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The post got removed, here's what it said

Hi, I couldn’t think of a great title but kind of just what it says. I am tired of seeing the definition of lesbianism being portrayed online as “non-men loving non-men” when that is just. Not what it is. My existence and my sexuality are not defined by men or the lack thereof. I am non binary, and I am attracted to some non binary lesbians, but not all nonbinary or genderqueer people. I am attracted to women. Not “non men” but women. My existence is for women only! Not everyone who is a non man. I am just so sick of men being centered in every discussion. I also want to be clear that by women I mean ALL women, trans women included (obviously). I hate feeling guilty that I’m not attracted to every “non man” gender on the block. Does anyone else feel this way? Why is it bad to be only attracted to women? I feel like I face so much lesbophobia already and changing the definition makes it harder. I am not defined by my lack of attraction to men, I am defined by my attraction to women.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries"[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks for capturing that. The note from the moderator on the deletion of the post says it all:

Moderators remove posts from feeds for a variety of reasons, including keeping communities safe, civil, and true to their purpose.

Pretty clear that the "true purpose" of any subreddit with "lesbian" in the title is validating men and bisexual women as lesbians at the expense of actual lesbians.