ColonizationOn the dangers of coming out as LGBTIQQAAXYZWTF

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[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 21 insightful - 11 fun21 insightful - 10 fun22 insightful - 11 fun -  (3 children)

aro ace-spec demigirl

And I also explained it to her like that as well as that a lot of queer people face danger and physical harm but she refused to understand that.

she's right they might throw her off a building for being demi

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 17 insightful - 10 fun17 insightful - 9 fun18 insightful - 10 fun -  (2 children)

As someone who is probably her parents' age: she faces an enormous risk of her parents going blind from their eyes rolling back into their head so hard. Either that or they break down into uncontrollable fits of laughter.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 16 insightful - 11 fun16 insightful - 10 fun17 insightful - 11 fun -  (0 children)

oh noes!!!1! our daughter only likes to have sex someone she has an emotional connection with! Every parents nightmare!!

[–]JulienMayfair 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Either that or they break down into uncontrollable fits of laughter.

This is what I was thinking.

But the uncontrollable part is really what worries her because it's so important to these people to have total control over what other people think of them.

[–][deleted] 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I know that they wouldn't understand what an aro ace-spec demigirl is

Yeah, because you're using a bunch of nonsensical jargon that normal people don't know. Just tell them you're happy being single and not interested in relationships. If you just say it simply then there's no room for misunderstanding.

But I guess saying it simply doesn't let her claim the oppression points from her parents reacting negatively to the nonsense.

[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

So my roommate recently claimed that it's childish of me (23) to not be outed to my parents.

Not your roommates decision. YOU decide when to out yourself.

The reason why I don't is just that I'm not comfortable explaining my identity to them because despite being very open I know that they wouldn't understand

Fair enough, lets keep you safe.

they wouldn't understand what an aro ace-spec demigirl is and would 100% straight up start to invalidate me.

Wait, what?

And I also explained it to her like that as well as that a lot of queer people face danger and physical harm but she refused to understand that.

Maybe it's because you're making up words and identities that no one understands, and pretending other people need to care?

I mean, the only reason any of us are talking about this is because you're glomming onto us and colonizing the LGB movement. It's not because we want you or believe you are a part of us, it's because we hate what you're doing in our name. If you don't like it, then leave and be yourself.

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well made up special identity aside I actually do agree with the basic point. Quite a few of these morons who have grown up in accepting families don't get that being public about not being straight can lead to family break ups/hostility, social ostracization etc. It's totally reasonable for some to feel it's better to not be out in the open about because they treasure those relationships.

[–]dilsencySame-sex community 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

an aro ace-spec demigirl

The comedy of this sentence aside... she's on the "ace spectrum", so she has sex or experiences sexual attraction sometimes. But who is she attracted to?

The problem with putting the "a spectrum" in the same category as homo/bi/heterosexuality is that you don't actually describe which people this person is attracted to, in whatever way she is. It'd be much more clear if she described herself as a heterosexual (I'm assuming) who is not interested in relationships, with a low libido.

[–]GenderSpecial 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

But she has a high libido though? I’m so confused what she’s “in the closet” for…

https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/ldu4mn/being_on_the_acespec_and_having_a_high_libido/

[–]censorshipment 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

The parents likely already know that OP is "special" lol they might not know what kind of special their child is, but they have a clue.

My parents always know I was gay, but that wasn't all... I was also a plushie and very much into making sweet love to a stuffed animal lol I was caught humping it and eating its imaginary pussy 😅 did that for 5 years (ages 7-12)... that was a well-made stuffed animal! Having a hypersexual child is more embarrassing than having an asexual child... so I don't know why these dweebs stress about telling their families that they do NOT want to fuck.

[–]Destresse🇨🇵 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This reads like a made-up situation shared for earning pity points.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I know that they wouldn't understand what an aro ace-spec demigirl is

This is a irredeemably ignorant planet and I don't want to live on it anymore 😢 🌎 🚀