Indoctrination / DoublethinkThe gibberish of the queers

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[–]Horror-SwordfishI don't get how flairs work 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I just don't understand how someone could "experience things that happen in romantic relationships without the romance and/or sex involved." I'm guessing this means that someone really just wants to: live with someone else, get on each others' nerves every now and then, work out paying bills together, split up chores, all that mundane stuff that happens in a relationship without the romance and/or sex.

So... a roommate? A "queerplatonic partner" is a roommate that you've agreed to stay roommates with for a while? How dumb to try and make yourself feel special for wanting a freaking roommate.

I personally don't buy that "asexuality" exists (and I'm just barely going to acknowledge the split-attraction model by saying that "[whatever]romantic" is definitely not a thing), but I believe that there are people that are uninterested in having sex out there, for various reasons (it's more that I just doubt that there are people that are simply attracted to NO ONE EVER and that those people that say they are are just lying to themselves).

With that said, I can imagine someone that's uninterested in having sex being interested in having a relationship still - because one is still straight, gay, or bi even if they are not interested in actually having sex with someone else - but there's no need to make that some kind of special separate category. This is just boring people with no personality trying desperately to find something "interesting" about themselves, and Lord knows that this is the best way to do it, because if you mention you're in a "queerplatonic" relationship to a normal person, they're going to probably ask wtf that means, and then you get to talk about yourself and how special and amazing you are by obscuring your totally normal human tendencies with mystical buzzwords. Voila, you are now "interesting."

[–]JulienMayfair 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I have a gay friend who has Asperger's, and he was with a partner for several years who finally left him because my friend finds actual sex acts kind of repulsive. I saw it early because we dated briefly almost 30 years ago, and sex for him was mutual masturbation followed by IMMEDIATELY getting into the shower to wash off.

If you haven't encountered it directly, you might not believe it. Some autistic people REALLY do not like physical contact with others.

So I would suspect that queerplatonic probably means, "I'm autistic, and this is as intimate as I can bear getting with another person."

I mean, we know there's a big crossover population between trans and autism.

[–]Horror-SwordfishI don't get how flairs work 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, my husband is actually on the Autism Spectrum and he has some sensory issues - thankfully for me, sex is not something he has issues with (frankly, he wants it too much as far as I'm concerned), but you should see how crazy he goes if his shirt is a little tight and is touching his skin.

It doesn't surprise me that there exist people that find the actual sex act repulsive, but you'd think that, rather than inventing a new identity, they'd just say, "I'm autistic, and this is as intimate as I can bear getting with another person." Because 9 times out of 10, that's what they're going to have to say anyway when they tell someone they're interested in a queerplatonic relationship.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I didn't think of that part, I bet they don't share finances like people in a relationship do.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

To be fair I'd doubt asexuality's existence as well seeing all the asexual forums but I am not just uninterested in sex. When people say with confidence they always liked girls/boys/both I have no idea what to say. I never really liked anyone more than as potential friends. Unless I dunno, you always like people of certain sex as friends and later it evolves into something else? But I had an impression feeling attraction is much faster and more simple - basically like realizing you like some food and some you don't. Sometimes I considered that I could be bi but unlike a bi person I really never manage to think about people in any sexual manner.

[–]censorshipment 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

That's a goddamn friendship, although I guess there is a difference if two people sleep in bed together and cuddle. Like my gay ass and my friend's bi ass have never had sex in the 16 years we've known each other, but we've flirted and whatnot. I sent her a pic of me in my boxers wearing my (7.5") dildo last night lol is that "queerplatonic"? Or are we just friends who flirt? 🤔

[–]CleverFoolOfEarth 17 insightful - 11 fun17 insightful - 10 fun18 insightful - 11 fun -  (3 children)

Censorshipment, and I say this with the utmost possible respect, shut the fuck up about your goddamn dildo, nobody cares and it's weirding people out, and by people I mean me. Might I suggest a more sexual subsaidit as the proper place for that?

[–]GenderSpecial 8 insightful - 8 fun8 insightful - 7 fun9 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

You’re definitely in a QPR, welcome to the aro ace umbrella spectrum my fellow queer!