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[–]Ladis_Wascheharuum 27 insightful - 1 fun27 insightful - 0 fun28 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

In order of escalation:

  1. Just don't state pronouns, ignore the request if you can. (i.e. If asked for name and pronouns, just give your name, and move on.) If pressed, then move to the next step.

  2. "I don't feel comfortable doing that."

  3. "You're making me feel really uncomfortable. Please stop."

  4. Go for the outwoke route you mentioned. Explain that demanding pronouns can be traumatic and triggering for various people, including trans people who aren't out, gendervariant/genderflux/agender people, people who are questioning their own gender, etc.

[–]jim_steak 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think this is the best route. I would also recommend not arguing about it at all, if it becomes a topic of debate you lose automatically because you're debating in an environment where your opposition has all the power. I would present it more like your personal boundary than an ideological/political belief, because boundaries are far less negotiable than political beliefs.