I have experienced some confusion and misgendering from gay dudes but I find the ones who message are more open minded to me.

The bi men who message, I find they really are just looking for an NSA fetish. They misgender me, they want to suck me even when my profile explains this is a major dysphoria trigger.

How dare those gay and bi men talk about their sexual attraction to other men and what they'd like to do sexually with a person they're meeting ON A HOOKUP APP!!!

I have a bi woman friend who encouraged me to come out because she sees people, not gender. So I guess I was expecting to meet a nice bi guy who would be more open minded and validate my gender identity. I knew the pool would shrink for dating, but I thought I'd get some quality matches. In my experience, the bi guys are even worse than cis gay dudes and it really sucks.

I don't even find bi men more attractive, it's just I was hoping for a partner who would see me for me and not as a man, like gay dudes do.

🚩🚩🚩🚩internalized homophobia 🚩🚩🚩🚩

Ah yes, because all gay men will sleep with any man and have no concern for their partner's personality, life or inner world. Nope, clearly just a bunch of sex-obsessed freaks.

It's almost making me regret coming out because I'm increasingly aware the tiny dating pool I had when I was seen as cis gay has shrunk tenfold more. It feels quite hopeless.

Yes, going into the bizarro world closet and pretending you're not gay would make dating and building community with other homo and bisexuals more difficult.