Sex & IntimacyHow do you feel about the "split-attraction model"?

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[–]HelloMomo 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'll be willing to revisit the concept when someone can actually give me a clear explanation of what romantic attraction is, and how's its different from friendship.

It reminds me of the gender identity thing, is that they want to keep the like... social scaffolding of the thing, for lack of a better term, while removing the foundation. So you're left with basically stereotypes, unmoored from anything, and then people start asking, "wait, what was this supposed to be again?"

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It feels like a weird role-playing of romance. Well even as asexual myself just never understood it and I just take the existence of this model as a lot of spicy straight girls or closeted gay/bi people's way of rationalizing why they are queer (or are queer but not exactly fully gay or bi).

[–]HelloMomo 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I just take the existence of this model as a lot of spicy straight girls or closeted gay/bi people's way of rationalizing why they are queer (or are queer but not exactly fully gay or bi).

I've heard 2 different stories of lesbians that go like this: She's trying to convince herself she's bi, and using the split attraction model to justify why — even though she knows in their gut that she's not really as attracted to her boyfriend as she should be — that it's ok, or normal, or to be expected from them.