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[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

To be honest, even if I am asexual and never experienced attraction which made me wanna do more than to just get to know someone in a friendly way because I thought they were a cool person but I concluded how split-attraction model... doesn't reflect the reality. If we know people have different personalities, different reactions to the same event/thing/stimuli then I believe that some people experience attraction in this kind of split way as this model presents but there are people who don't experience attraction in such a split way.

This model just doesn't reflect the reality and causes confusion. I think that sexual attraction shouldn't be understood as just who you wanna strip naked and fuck in a second. It doesn't have just this component. I also see a possibility certain people evoke different experience of attraction in the same individual. Some evoke this more purely sexual desire but no desire to settle, get to know each other. But there are other people, who don't make such an individual wanna immediately bang them but instead take the "slow burn" approach.

And let's not forget people can have their unique way of experiencing/forming attraction to people. Some kind of style of their attraction to people. And then add to the differences happening also depending on people such a person gets attracted to.

And then the only very strict thing is what sex you just feel attraction to - no matter what kind.

Okay, that's my thoughts on it just on a basis on seeing what people say and share. When it comes to my experience, well I have nothing to bring up to see if what I say isn't also totally detached from the reality.