I'm so sorry you're going through this, I can't say I can relate in the sense of having all my friends "transition" since I frankly never had many friends to begin with but I can relate in the sense that whenever I come across other feminine gay men, a huge majority of them are either trans-identified or they're "non-binary", pretty much trying to avoid the real term of what they are which are "feminine men" and as a feminine gay man myself, some days I feel like I'm the only one who knows who he is, knows that men can't be women regardless of how they dress, and is just keeping it 100% real even if it is socially difficult.

So in that regard, I totally understand where you're coming from and I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. I highly recommend reading Abigail Shrier's book like Superbi suggested, she makes some great observations that at the very least, can help you know you're not alone if you're even feeling like that. But also because you're in grad school, it really is best you try to keep it to yourself until you graduate, then go wild. In the meantime, if you really need to vent, come here or Ovarit and get it all out.