i’m a lesbian & i just had sex with a man…& loved it so i (f18) have identified as lesbian for years. i am extremely open about being gay to the extent of making it a huge part of my personality. i am the “gay friend” & i’ve never questioned it since coming out young.

This is why teens need to be given the space to explore and grow into their sexuality without labeling themselves and making their sexuality the center of their identity. Sexual orientation isn't an idea in your head, it is living in alignment with what your body wants; who are you attracted to, who do you fall in love with, who do you desire?

If you are a female and you have ANY desire for men; you are not a lesbian. That's the one option you can mark off, now you can figure out if you're straight or bisexual based on whether you also have attraction to other women.

cant stop thinking abt this. it might’ve been just meaningless sex to him but to me, it triggered an entire identity crisis. i drove straight home, showered and slept for 7 hours. i stayed in bed the next day and couldn’t eat. my usual workout routine took double the time bc i couldn’t focus.

i’m struggling to come to terms w what this means abt my sexuality… i’ve aligned myself so tightly to the lesbian label i don’t know who i am without it. & now i’m doubting everything i think ik abt myself. he made me promise not to tell anyone what happened so i have no one to talk to abt this. i am also ashamed to share it as well bc everyone knows i’m a lesbian and they would judge me for being a hypocrite or something.

Cognitive dissonance between your actions, desires and what you say you are will do that to you.

i don’t know what to do. it was a huge mistake but i want to do it again. i would KILL to know what he thinks of the situation and if he would to. it’s probably just the hormones, *but i keep waiting for him to text me & ive convinced myself i have a little crush, so it hurts extra when he says this can never get out. then fcks me again. hella mixed signals. * i don’t know what to do but i’m here bc i cant tell anyone else. thank u for reading.

"Lesbian", yet she writes a fucking essay about her crush on some fuckboi 🤡🙄 Not once has she mentioned desire for another woman in this ode to homophobia.

tldr; lesbian who had sex with a man and loved it but it triggered an entire identity crisis & now i might have a crush on him

Lesbians don't enjoy sex with men, they certainly don't love it. This is conversion therapy rhetoric. Accept your bisexuality or heterosexuality and stop hurting lesbians by pushing this "magic dick/one exception/right guy" bullshit.