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[–]Lizzythelezzo 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Ugh it makes me facepalm how so many straight men fetishise being a lesbian. Seriously, why would you want to have 1-2% of the female population as your dating pool instead of 98%? Not to mention all the privilege that comes with being heterosexual.

[–]reluctant_commenter 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think most straight men have barely thought about the actual experience of being lesbian at all. They likely have no idea how much their mental image of "lesbian" has been formed by other straight people, mostly straight men. "Lesbian" media is dominated by non-trans straight men, "lesbian" forums like subreddits are dominated by transgender-identifying straight male autogynephiles, "lesbian" academic circles are usually full of "political lesbians" many of whom are straight women.

Straight people don't have to think about the dating pool size problem. It drives me up the wall, I think it's honestly one of the most difficult things about being homosexual.

[–]Lizzythelezzo 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, and I guess the women who date trans identifying males are likely to be straight, heteroflexible or bisexual anyway, so perhaps this doesn't really affect them in the same way as actual natal lesbians.