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[–]Mermer 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

It's not easy, I went on HER and everyone had pronounces, I immediately swiped left on anything that wasn't she/her. I started sexing with a girl that had lesbian as her orientation and then later on told me she doesn't care about gender as long as they love her. I'm not looking for a relationship so I'd still love to see her and hook up but it's hard to find another lesbian who isn't into the whole queer trans bullshit and looks like a normal person.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that. i heard that "HER" has gotten hit the worst when it comes to gender lunacy. On Grindr we're slowly getting there as I'm seeing more trans-identified females on there now compared to 3 years ago. And I'm even seeing more straight men appear on there as well (they say they're only looking for "FTM"). The girl you're talking about sounds like she is bisexual but I hope maybe things can work out, maybe if she gets to know you more and you have a deep heart to heart, you can sway her to come to reality. But yeah I've seen what you mean that there are a lot of Lesbians who believe in the whole "Queer" and trans bullshit which can make dating a battlefield for your ordinary lesbian.

[–]reluctant_commenter 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think HER markets itself towards the LGBTQ+ movement, though, right? Maybe it's more likely than other mainstream apps to have people who believe they need to announce their pronouns.