100% agree. I mean, people in the 70s already tried this out and it was a shit show. Because, really, there’s no way to avoid jealousy and hurt feelings. We simply aren’t wired for it.

Moreover, it’s the sort of thing you can find appealing only if you’re deeply unhappy in your relationship or very young and unaware of how draining adult life is. After working a 40-hour work week, doing house and lawn chores, taking care of our dog, running all the necessary errands, exercising regularly, fulfilling familial obligations, seeing friends, attending religious services, cooking, cleaning, fulfilling the requirements for the organizations we belong to, and spending a good chunk of time sitting in city traffic, my fiancée and I are both wiped pretty much constantly. We don’t even have kids. All we want to do after all of that is read a book, play a video game, do internet things, or have a glass of wine on the patio. Fulfilling one person’s sexual and emotional needs is enough. Adding another 1-3 people’s needs to the mix is simply not a realistic long-term plan.