BisexualThis post is a mess.

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[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (32 children)

This person does represent the "trying to figure things out" young bisexual. Unfortunately, she is learning in the age of labels and virtue signaling, so she isn't seeking out what bisexuals experience, she is trying to fit herself into a gender/inclusive box, and also "trans".

It's normal for young Bi women to experiment and get hella hard crushes on other women despite actually being more of a Kinsey 1 or 2. It's part of us figuring out whether we're homosexual, straight, or bisexual.

Bisexuality is the only "sexuality is a spectrum" one out there, and the label of "bi" doesn't say where we are on the spectrum. Our foundation is "we are attracted to both sexes", and the spectrum is how much or little, and why/how.

She did say this, "I'm a bit disappointed about my attraction to women disappearing like this." That makes me think she's more of a Kinsey 4, maybe even leaning towards Kinsey 5/FEBfem. Her attraction has changed since she took male hormones though, which speaks to what hormones and pharmaceuticals can do to disrupt a human.

[–]stunaep 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (25 children)

It's not the hormones. Attraction can't change due to hormones. There were a bunch of experiments in the past where they tried to change the sexuality of homosexuals by injecting them with different hormones. Something sociological is going on.

[–]motss-pb 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Maybe she fetishizes homosexual relationships. And now that she sees herself as a man, her attraction to women doesn't seem quite as gay to her anymore, so she lost interest.

[–]stunaep 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think it's deeper than that. But there is so little detail that I don't know what it is. They're always so vague about this kind of thing.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Hormones don't change sexuality. Its more likely she was focused on females like the young bi girls who are still discovering themselves and have a bigger focus on the sexuality which looks cooler and more transgressive. But now as transmen, she can still live a "gay" relationship in her eyes, so it is allowing her hetero attraction to take charge. Overall, I had this total misconception that bisexuality was 50/50 and that women who said they were bi but never dated same sex, were fake bis, But reality is you could be 90 percent het attraction and 10 percent homo attracted and still be bi. Also there is a difference between sexual and emotional attracted, and it is possible to be sex attracted to both but only romantically attracted to one sex. Overall, when someone say they're bi, you don't really know exactly what that means.

[–]RaspberryTea 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

But reality is you could be 90 percent het attraction and 10 percent homo attracted and still be bi. Also there is a difference between sexual and emotional attracted, and it is possible to be sex attracted to both but only romantically attracted to one sex. Overall, when someone say they're bi, you don't really know exactly what that means.

That's pretty much the reason I think a "bisexual community" is something of a lost cause. Men, women, mostly same-sex attracted, mostly het, right in the middle, all over the map.... You can't really organize that. It's just easier to align with whatever is most personally relevant.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think it would make sense for the bi in the middle, but overall I don't think there is any need of community in general.

[–]Destresse🇨🇵 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She said she's pre-everything though, so it's not the hormones.