Bathhouse culture is dead, this isn't the 70s and only the grossest guys go now. I think this person lives in the bay area and I would say it's even more true there than anywhere. In SF there's random parties that are specifically to cruise , also I remember there was a fairly large group where you had to be invited to even apply to go, then you submit your photos & a certain % of existing attendees had to okay you for you to get the address. These girls aren't even aware of what's really going on & think they're Lou Sullivan or something. They'll never have access to the actual events or parties where the hot guys are.