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[–]julesburm1891 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Why is there such a steady subset of straight women desperate to larp as gay?

[–]hellonumpty 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Get to feel ~special~ from the security of a het relationships without any of the possible shite stuff that comes with being gay or in a same sex relationships - like homophobic harassment, rejection from family or friends etc. Bet the worst they get from their families is an eye-roll.

[–]Datachost 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

People who have nothing better going on for them

[–]HelloMomo 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I recently watched this video, and found it kind of interesting. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdei5i5AczU A GC straight woman argues that she thinks it comes from a place of frustration with the power dynamics of heterosexuality, and wanting the perceived egalitarianism of same-sex relationships. Except they're actually straight, and so real same-sex relationships aren't an option for them.

I'm not sure how much I agree with everything she says, but since this is a straight woman analyzing the behavior of other straight women, I do think she has some added insight there.

Heterosexual women identifying as queer or non-binary is an attempt to, in a way, mimic homosexual relationships and throw off those gendered expectations.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

USA culture is sexist as fuck. Also is funny she thinks homosexual relationship will automatically be equal, while some(many?) brainwashed couples will have role totally simulatng heterosexist powerdynamics.

[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Because it brings social benefits in liberal places. Same reason there are so many white academics (also mostly women) who larp as other races. There have to be dozens who have been caught at this point.

There's a stereotype that straight people don't matter or aren't human in a way that gay people are that they're reacting to. Gay love is the only love that is respected.

[–]strawberrycake 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I used to work with an older white man who was a they/them and claimed he was a PoC. It’s definitely a thing that happens. An Indian woman I knew complained about it to me in private and how these identities made it more difficult to address how shitty he was at his job. It’s progressive armor.

[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Whenever there's a flaw in the system, scumbags will exploit it.