If it's not a safe or appropriate place for a person to disclose that they are gay then they shouldn't feel pressured into doing so by hetrosexuals who have absolutely no understanding of being LGB.

And here's the very real danger of feelgood warm fuzzy hetrosexuals butting the heads in where they don't belong:

I refused to come out back when I was 14 (20 year ago now) because of safety concerns in my community and at school. This was why I was kind of ditching school so often at that age.

However a government psychologist I was forced to go to every week, the school counsellor and representatives of the Rainbow Youth (New Zealand) charity had a meeting about me without my parents or myself knowing. They decided that I needed to be my authentic myself and so decided to publicly out me to some students without asking me or my parents permission.

A month later I got drunk (drank a 1 litre bottle of Jack Daniels straight and then some) at an out door party with underage drinkers and adults in their twenties. I was held down by some of the adults and violently raped while they chanted homophobic slurs.

When I finally got up the strength to come forth about what happened just before my 16th birthday, none of people who breached my privacy rights were investigated by the police.

The police also happened to bungled the case against the rapists who were able to threaten the 30 odd witnesses to not give evidence in the court case after originally providing witness statements.