RantLGBTQ memes are full of stereotypes and group-signaling, not actual lived experiences

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[–]Destresse🇨🇵 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I didn't even know some of these stereotypes existed. I do walk fast and sit weird lol, but apparently that's reserved for bisexuals!

More seriously though, a few years ago when I first realised I was a lesbian, I was really bothered and nervous about not fitting most (if any...?) of the stereotypes about lesbians. I thought, naively, that fitting those would make me... I don't know, feel like I belonged somewhere among people like me, I suppose. But I knew no lesbian, and my mental image was full of stereotypes, so I felt too unique, if that makes sense. I was worried other lesbians would not believe I was one of them haha. So I hyperfocused on those silly details and examined each and every one of them under a microscope to find something, one tiny thing, that could fit me.

It passed, like all things. I don't really care anymore, I wear what I like and am what I am and don't worry too much about it. But I think this is the root cause in many cases: the need to belong.

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

But I knew no lesbian, and my mental image was full of stereotypes, so I felt too unique, if that makes sense.

Yes, it does!! At least to me. I was told by homophobic family members that "all lesbians shave their heads" and ridiculous stuff like that; that's a large part of why I assumed for so long that I couldn't possibly be lesbian. These things may seem trivial to many people but they can really confuse people who are LGB and don't realize it, and are also under the pressure of living in a homophobic culture.

So I hyperfocused on those silly details and examined each and every one of them under a microscope to find something, one tiny thing, that could fit me.

Yeah I think that's part of why some people I know are seeking so fervently to "seem gay." I just wish they would realize that you don't have to do anything extra in order to be, you know, legitimately gay! I guess that does take some time to sink in, for some people, but.. I find it frustrating to watch.

But I think this is the root cause in many cases: the need to belong.

Yup, absolutely. Acceptance, from somebody.