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[–]serf_n_terfStraight Ally - Surf’s up! 🏄‍♀️ 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

That subreddit is a thing of nightmares. I feel for lesbians having to navigate the world with these creeps at every corner. 🤢

[–]Shales123 22 insightful - 5 fun22 insightful - 4 fun23 insightful - 5 fun -  (5 children)

Damn right. I recently posted that I'm looking for female roommates, and a male xir responded asking for my address saying he wants to move in

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Yikes. Time to bring a buddy and have them meet you at a coffee shop the first time, even if they sound female or claim they are. And see if you can find their social media profiles (I can't predict whether asking in advance would go well or not but somehow I doubt it, but many people aren't hard to find online with just the name and what they look like). Advanced vetting is in order.

[–]reluctant_commenter 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Always good advice. I appreciate you suggesting those pointers, they seem common-sense but honestly I feel like a lot of the teens/young adults in LGBTQ+ communities are undereducated/naive when it comes to safety with strangers.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes. And the more isolated or lonelier you are the bigger of a target you are. I'd always suggest getting some seasoned advice about screening that's relevant to the location in question, as this is not something I've had to do, but I would be using the resources at my disposal (background checks, checking references, social media, etc.) liberally in the same situation. No fucking around with who gets to share your home with you.

[–]Shales123 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Oh, I know it's a guy, I've met him at a social event and didn't like him. I am not considering him at all

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I meant any other contestants, too. My comment isn't directed specifically at you, though, you just made me realize what a trial it might be to even try to get a sane roommate currently.