ColonizationDiary of a salty, homophobic genderspecial.

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[–]julesburm1891 37 insightful - 2 fun37 insightful - 1 fun38 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

in a space I call ~fruity manhood~

Starting off strong with homophobia.

something called bioessentialism, which is the practice of assigning meaning and worth to genitalia and sex assigned at birth.

No one is “assigning” sex. This isn’t a junior high group project. Your sex is observed and noted as a physical reality.

I hop on the apps (Grindr, Scruff) and see these same men. I message a few of them, as I’ve just seen them in public, and they’ve expressed explicit sexual interest in me. None of them responded to me. Why?

Okay. First off, they didn’t express explicit sexual interest. If they had, they would’ve tried to hook up at the bar. They merely looked at you and you assigned meaning to it that may or may not have actually existed.

Anyways, if they were interested, they’re definitely not now because they know you’re a woman.

It was a trans-centered and trans-led event, and it was very gay

It was very trans by the sound of it.

Hole or no hole, dick or no dick, it is time for us all to agree that it sucks to be reduced down to genitalia.

It does suck for you because your entire get up is chasing after people who aren’t into pussy OR chasing after people who are into pussy and then being mad at them for it. For the rest of us, honestly acknowledging our sexual orientation and dating the sex(es) we’re into doesn’t suck at all.

[–]dilsencySame-sex community 28 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 0 fun29 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

For the rest of us, honestly acknowledging our sexual orientation and dating the sex(es) we’re into doesn’t suck at all.

Somehow I never thought of this response, lol. Them claiming "it is time for us all to agree that it sucks to be reduced down to genitalia" is pure projection; us commonfolk do not mind at all being recognized as being of the biological sex that we are. Please, call me a man because of me being male. Go right on ahead.

[–]julesburm1891 26 insightful - 1 fun26 insightful - 0 fun27 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, we aren’t the ones with the problem. Tbh, I’ve always assumed this is how the whole non-binary thing started. The trans community is projecting their “gender identity” so hard that people not “having” one assumes that means something’s wrong with them. They’re mistaking a lack of mental illness as a problem.

[–]holy_goat 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The only people who describe themselves or events as "very" gay are straight i s2g

[–]CleverFoolOfEarth 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Straight or 15 and haven't figured out much else out about who they are yet.

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Okay. First off, they didn’t express explicit sexual interest. If they had, they would’ve tried to hook up at the bar. They merely looked at you and you assigned meaning to it that may or may not have actually existed.

This seems to be a huge issue. it's a lack of social intelligence and tied strongly to autism which we know is prevalent in trans individuals. I have a bit of a problem with this myself but I recognize it as a weakness and if i misinterpret signals and someone rejects me I end up feeling the need to apologize for misinterpreting. Due to this I also miss tons of signals the other way because i am afraid of making a friendship uncomfortable by reading too much into their signals. Later on I figure out that it was a signal after the ship has sailed.

The ongoing theme with these people is that they interpret everything as sexual and specifically about them in a sexual way. It's extreme narcissism combined with zero social intelligence.