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OP: "It wasn’t my first time having sex. And I have been fingered, as in penetrated with two fingers. We actually did use lube… lots of lube. I liked cuddling with her but I didn’t feel very aroused if I’m being honest. That must have been my problem."

Edit: if she wasn't a lesbian I'd say it might be vaginismus. But women can also develop vaginismus in order to protect themselves from rape. I have vaginismus because I'm a lesbian, I trained my body to reject penetration, but has carried over into my sex life with women and I have to go to physical therapy to learn how to be less tense. But in her case she's been successfully fingered presumably by women, so yeah, medically there's probably nothing wrong she's just not into him and her body is saying no