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[–]reluctant_commenter 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

And the worst part is if I had stayed calmer and more neutral maybe I could have talked her out of it.

Hey. Don't blame yourself. Ultimately, at the end of the day, a person can't control anyone else's actions and choices, only their own. You did your best by trying; I'm proud of you for that. And who knows, maybe you wouldn't have been successful no matter how emotive were.

To answer your question-- I haven't been in that position before with someone I know; back when I knew people who were contemplating transition or identifying as transgender, I was naive and unaware of how homophobic the transgender rights movement is, so I wouldn't have thought to talk them out of it. I have seen a couple posts on this sub about people here who have had a similar experience to yours; if I have the time, I'll try to dig them up. You're not alone.

[–]7874[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I have seen a couple posts on this sub about people here who have had a similar experience to yours; if I have the time, I'll try to dig them up.

It's okay. I just wanted some advice on how to convince her but it's over. I think she's asleep now and since I didn't convince her tonight, she's almost definitely going to get the surgery in the morning.