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[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (1 child)

God, do I know the feeling, OP. Because I've been through this, too... twice.

Neither were people that I knew well, or IRL. But it was still pretty hard on me. That no matter what I said, or how much I gave of myself... I couldn't reach them; I couldn't find the key. And both are so young! High-school age (him); 21 (her). I felt like I was failing them. Even when she went off on me because of it, put me in an emotional hole... there was still the terrible sense of if only I'd tried harder, thought faster, used different words, if only, if only...

But you can't do any more than try, OP. That's all anyone can do. And how many people will even do THAT, these days? For fear of being branded a transphobe, and getting canceled? Or even just going through what you and I have? Taking the risk of swimming against the tide, and probably failing? Because we care? Because we don't want to see people hurt?

Please don't blame yourself, OP. Never regret caring. Instead, be proud of yourself that you still can.

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