But when we leave town to go see friends or go to the beach, we’re forced to go through Trump country and things get dicey. As a “WOC,” I’ve done my best to play the “submissive quiet wife”

My partner and I grew up in two different regions of the USA. However, we both grew up in very rural areas that overwhelmingly voted for Trump. We now live in a suburb where literally over 80% of the town voted for Trump. Between our home and frequently going to visit our parents, we have never encountered homophobic hate. In fact, people have been nothing but kind to us. (We have, however, been called slurs and harassed in the blue city where we both work.)

It’s baffling that OP chooses to build people she’s clearly never spent time with into bogeymen for a problem she is never going to encounter. It’s even more bizarre that she’s so worried people will judge her for being Hispanic or “gay,” yet she’s apparently never once considered she’s unfairly prejudiced to roughly half the nation.