RantDoes anyone else feel isolated/depressed because of how taboo it is to talk about the transgender movement's homophobia?

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There was a big argument about the BBC article in my friend group. I watched the argument take place on a variety of social media for a few days and it went absolutely nowhere and then they just stopped talking about it. I stayed out of it just watching. Figured out who I could trust to talk about this stuff with and who I couldn't, though that wasn't really surprising. The people I talked to after were surprised I agreed with them though.

I don't deal well with conflict in person so I tend to avoid arguments that will spill over to in person interactions. I generally don't bring up a subject without first having an idea of where that person stands on it. Especially in this day and age where having a disagreement over trans stuff with 1 person can quickly snowball into having a disagreement with a large number of people.

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I stayed out of it just watching. Figured out who I could trust to talk about this stuff with and who I couldn't, though that wasn't really surprising.

That is very wise, nice job. I wish that I had been paying more attention around the time that the article came out, I could've done the same. I'm debating whether to show it to people I know; I suppose I could show it and downplay or hide my opinion, but then that's a choice, too.

I generally don't bring up a subject without first having an idea of where that person stands on it. Especially in this day and age where having a disagreement over trans stuff with 1 person can quickly snowball into having a disagreement with a large number of people.

That also sounds like a wise move in the long-term. That's actually part of why I'm so stressed at the idea of talking candidly about it (trans homophobia) with people I know IRL; it only takes one disgruntled, miscalculated conversation to inspire someone to leak that information, and possibly mess up the rest of my social relationships, some of which affect me materially as well as emotionally.

[–]MoutonelectriqueBland Straight ♀ 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Looking at your username, I think we're from the same country or at least neighbouring countries. I always had some hope it wasn't as bad down here. On the other hand I do censor myself and first figure out what their opinion most likely is before I discuss these issues with people.