That is a pseudo intellectual BS way of saying desirable people should have no say in who they have sex with because the undesirable (and they could be "undesirable" just by being female if their target is gay men) will make threats and try to destroy those they can't control.

It's like when you're a little kid and have a crush on someone who doesn't like you back, so you get angry and lash out. But then you grow up. In theory everyone grows up. Obviously not!