Colonization"I'm A Pansexual, Non-Binary Lesbian, Trans Woman & Furry" : PLEASE STOP

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[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

The BPD correlation is real as far as I can tell (in addition to at least one study that has found a much higher incidence of Cluster B disorders among trans people). But I would emphasize that the constant trying on of different identities is what's going on there. It is not at all unusual for a person with BPD to "mirror" people around them, which can become weird and unnerving (surprise!) when they do things like copy mannerisms, language, manner of dress, etc.—it starts to feel stalkery.

And of course...that's what we are being subjected to, ultimately—a bunch of impulsive, noisy, immature people with little stable sense of self who are trying to construct one that will get them endless validation they feel that they need to exist and survive. We are merely bumps in the road on their way to that supposed destination. That's why we get run over.

[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Just wanted to throw a couple of links in here... these are non-exhaustive, but essentially, I agree with your observation about personality disorder prevalence. This:

But I would emphasize that the constant trying on of different identities is what's going on there.

is a BPD symptom, or closely related to one.

https://saidit.net/s/GCdebatesQT/comments/5szv/interesting_meta_article_questioning_whether_this/mlo2

related: https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/87mg/i_want_to_date_lesbians_is_a_valid_reason_for/uk0o

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, exactly. I have watched people with diagnosed BPD do this switching and mirroring, copycatting, etc. (this goes beyond some sort of flattering imitation toward something that feels like stalking). It's eerie. They seem robotic at times in their quest to become something, anything. (They also seem robotic when they are in the middle of gaining pleasure from abusing someone. That's worse than eerie. And more indicative of someone with a comorbid Cluster B disorder, i.e. not "just" BPD. In the case of BPD, I can't imagine how that emptiness must feel, but I do know how it feels to be subjected to the abuse they're capable of inflicting. There is a reason they burn people out constantly. It's a tragedy with a well-earned stigma attached.

Thank you for the links, fine work as usual. I have saved them to catch up with.