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[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Does BSF stand for "best straight friend"?

I would love to meet other gay men, but so far, no luck. I live in a small town, with no gay bar, and the only place to go where you’d expect there to be gay men are apps, where the people are flaky. I do have a bisexual sister, and on my street lives a bisexual man who is my sister's age. They’re not dating, but they are close friends. However, I cannot be honest with them about the gender ideology, because my sister and my neighbour are adamant that non-binary people are valid. Now, my sister and I get along for the most part, except when we argue about our government's response to the coof (she supports lockdowns and vaccine mandates, I’m against them), and my neighbour is a nice guy so I have no issues with him except for lack of common interests, so I avoid the topic with them.

I do have my dad and my best friend (both heterosexual males) who are switched on and know that transgenderism is fake, for which I’m grateful. The other day my dad and I were driving home and the radio was on. The presenter was talking to what sounded like a man and then the presenter said the guest's name, which was a female name. My dad and I looked at each other in disbelief, and he said "that is definitely a man’s voice." My friend and I used to watch videos from the Skeptic CommunityTM and we have stopped watching their videos because that community is full of hacks, but we joke about them, and agree that Blaire White's boyfriend is definitely not straight.

[–]Mermer[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

"Does BSF stand for "best straight friend"?" It's just short for "best friend". (But she is straight lol) And I know how you feel I haven't been around openly gay people until I moved to the big City, I love how no one gives any fucks. I still am able to talk controversially to her I know she knows I'm smart and reasonable so she'd most likely understand but I can't straight up say "trans identities are bullshit". But I was able to rant about everything to my other best friend and she agreed 100% (But I had to keep it not too "terfy")

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It’s good that there are topics where you can be honest with your friend. But if she shows signs of being fed up with this transgender shit, assure her that it’s okay for her to be frustrated. Don’t push anything on her, just let her vent.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Don’t push anything on her, just let her vent.

I think this is wise advice. She has to do this learning at her own speed and when she's comfortable. Doing it does, after all, put one squarely in the crosshairs of a whole pile of potential abusers.