Gay MenThe Final Death of an LGBTQ+ Forum

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[–]NeedMoreCoffee~=[,,_,,]=^_^= 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Im sorry you lost your group. It's always sad when you lose that.

[–]JulienMayfair[S] 26 insightful - 2 fun26 insightful - 1 fun27 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

And the thing is, once the TRAs have "won," the whole thing dies. They can't seem to keep it going. I wonder if the very fact of shared trans identity is uncomfortable to them because it reminds them of something that, paradoxically, they talk about all the time while somehow wishing that it's not what they were.

[–]RiverSong 23 insightful - 2 fun23 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That's because they have no real interest in the whole thing from the very beginning. They join groups for all sorts of subjects mainly to post stuff like "I'm a trans enby lesbian, AMAB, autistic, disabled ... and I once insert subject of the group, am I welcome here?"

Then they wait for the validation, the groveling and the "welcome, you are valid, YAAAAS Queen, UWU"

All the sane people wonder what happened to their group, quietly leave (like you said), and the TQ+ leaves as well, because they never had any interest in anything that doesn't revolve around them and their validation anyway, and there are no other persons left to give them what they came for.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wonder if the very fact of shared trans identity is uncomfortable to them because it reminds them of something that, paradoxically, they talk about all the time while somehow wishing that it's not what they were.

This is so perceptive. Yeah, that's always the fly in the trans-ointment, isn't it? That the very identity which they demand respect for (or, more accurately, deference to), proclaim to have pride in, and generally WILL NOT STFU ABOUT... comes down to, "I cannot accept who I really am". Talk about cognitive dissonance! No wonder they're such a pissy, unpleasant bunch. They're perpetually trying to square the circle of living a lie AND making that a cause for celebration (somehow). Maybe that's why they're so toxic towards people like yourself: you remind them that they ARE living a lie... because you refuse to. And LGB people like you have worked hard, and taken a lot of risks, to openly be yourselves. Which makes their "I'm so PROUD of DENYING WHO I AM!1!" shtick look pretty pathetic... not to mention disgusting.