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[–]Criticallacitirc[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

So with straight couples do you believe fathers shouldn't be involved with raising their children?

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Of course I believe that. I don't believe children should even live in households with men. So children should be raised by "a village" of women, like female elephants help mothers with their babies... that's what women should do. Back in the 70s, radfems did that... but they didn't want mothers bringing their sons into the communities. That's "extreme" separatism which I support... boys don't belong in female communities, but in the integrated world, it's fine for moms to raise their sons with other women. I personally try to do this when I date moms... get rid of their children's fathers and raise the kids with my girlfriends. 😄

So basically, when a child is born... the fathers should go live elsewhere, and the moms should have a female support system to help raise their babies. I HATE the concept of a "nuclear family" involving men.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I don’t believe children should even live in households with men

I strongly disagree with this. Men are not a danger to children just because they are men. There are some men who are a danger to children, but there are some women who are a danger to children as well. I support lesbian couples raising children, and I also support single mothers who are widows, or who have been abandoned by their kids' fathers, but the idea that men should not be around children is absurd.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I've known a number of men who were better parents to their kids than the mothers were. (And each of these men had a strong nurturing instinct which one might call a maternal instinct if it were embodied by a woman.)

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Exactly. Men can be excellent fathers, and the positive impact they have on their children’s lives can never be underestimated.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I credit the three men I've been closest to in this lifetime with offering the vast majority of the healthy nurturing and support I received growing up and into early adulthood. Wouldn't trade them for the world.

[–]insta 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Then why are single parent household's kids such a statistical disaster?

[–]Neo_Shadow_LurkerPronouns: I/Don't/Care 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's funny how most of the people who glorify single-parenthood aren't single parents themselves.

It's almost like being a single parent is a very hard thing and most of the people who end up in this situation don't do so by choice, but by necessity.

Most of the single parents I have contact with have to deal with a crushing dilema in their daily lives: either to dedicate most of their energy to work, securing some economic stability for their children, or dedicate most of their time to the kid and being led to a potentially economical tight spot.

There's no way around it: a single person cannot raplace two.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well said.