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[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

What studies? I'm not saying men cannot raise childre, but it is more unnatural.

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    [–]Elvira95Viva la figa 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

    Unnatural because females take children inside them, have a body to feed them and have that mothernal instict, touch, sensitivity, a father doesn't have. In nature males are usually just there to get female pregnant, and than is always the female taking care of kids. A family with no mother figure just feels more unnatural than the one with all males.And as a female, I don't like the prospect of a girl without a mother. There is something sacred and special bond between mother and daughter, a man cannot replicate it, even an effeminte one. Sure gay men can surely be great parents and raise great behaved kids, nobody said otherwise, but it will always feel a bit unnatural to see kids raised by only males.

    [–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

    I'll agree to this with the addendum that fathers (heterosexual or homosexual) are essential to psychosocial development at the later stages (Erikson stages 3, 4, and 5). I don't buy into the idea that only Mom matters.

    [–]Elvira95Viva la figa 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

    Not only moms matter, of course. I just think mothers are more essential than fathers and more naturally programmed to raise kids. But both mother and fathers or at least both sex roles are necessary for a balanced development. I still think heterosexuals are the ideal family.

    [–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I agree that heterosexual parents are ideal (though homosexual parents are better than none and better than bad heterosexual parents). And I agree that mothers are important.

    I don't agree that fathers are less important than mothers, it's just that they are important at different developmental stages.

    [–]reluctant_commenter 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    I still think heterosexuals are the ideal family.

    Why? Because children of heterosexuals are less likely to suffer negative health consequences associated with discrimination against their parents?

    I'd be curious to see research on this topic. I imagine it's hard to get good studies done on it, though, since the topic is so politically-charged.

    [–]Elvira95Viva la figa 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    Because they give two sex roles a example and can be botn bio parents

    [–]reluctant_commenter 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I wonder if, for same-sex parents, having the child have a supportive parent of the other sex might remove this problem entirely.