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[–]Rage-Xion 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Question for cis lesbians: do you like being refered to as "cis lesbians"?

[–][deleted] 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No. Cis implies that I identify with gender roles/stereotypes for women, which I most certainly do not. I don't think any lesbian does because so many of those are related to relationships with men which we do not want.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No, it's unnecessary and normalizes the false split between "cis and trans" people. Trans lesbians aren't a real thing since men can't be lesbians. Unless we're going to start referring to exclusively same-sex attracted trans men as trans lesbians, but they would hate that since they're running from the reality of being a butch lesbian. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[–]SerpensInferna 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No. I find it offensive and I tell people that if they ever say the word in front of me.

I am not cis. I am a woman, and I am lesbian. I will not be defined against mentally ill men.

[–]reluctant_commenter 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No, because the definition of "lesbian" is homosexual and female, and throwing the modifier "cis" in front implies that transwomen (male transitioners) are lesbian, which they are not (since they're male).

edit: I'll second sneeuweekhoorn's comment, as well. I always forget that trans rights activists believe that "cis" people supposedly identify with gender roles and stereotypes for women. I do not, I am gender non-conforming (and honestly I would argue that all LGB people are GNC, just by the fact that being same sex attracted goes against expected norms/roles for each sex), not transgender or "cis".

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It doesn't really bother me because I'm used to adjectives... such as gay woman, black woman, masculine woman... so cis is just another prefix to me. When you're used to being the default woman, such as a white/straight/feminine woman, of course cis is going to annoy you.