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[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I mean you're not wrong that dating for gay men is a lot more difficult because many are just into hooking and what's worse is that these days, you're seeing a lot more gay/bi men in open relationships popping up and if you're someone who's trying to look for other single guys, it just adds another layer of frustration sorting you have to be mindful of. Yeah being feminine but more specifically feminine presenting because I think there are some gay men who don't mind guys with a more feminine personality as long as they still present in a masculine style but if the guy is also feminine presenting like I am? That's where they have problems. And right, my being black probably doesn't help neither...

i currently don't have any pets but in recent years I've been thinking about getting a dog because it would be nice to have something in the flesh that'd be happy to see me (lol). But no seriously, I do plan on maybe getting a dog in the future when I have a more stable living situation. Cats are cool but I just was always drawn more to dogs lol

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

People lives have been saved by pets. As you got a living being depending on you, you feel a reason to live and a source of affection and smiles. Dogs for me are better, dogs are like toddler who treat you as the best thing in the world, while cats are like grumpy teens lol But the work they require is equivalent. A dog will need much more time and attentions, daily walks and exercises, cats can be left alone for long, they don't require walks or restrict your life like that. You will find more emotional satisfaction in dogs. But cats are good too. I hated them before knowing an awesome cat ladies who made overcome my prejudices.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Right and that's the reason why I haven't gotten a dog yet. I just don't have the time and to give a dog all the attention they'll inevitably need just yet but when I do, I'll definitely be getting one. :)