The made up female identifies are to secretly manipulate women, so he then feels like he has control. Something needs to be controlled, and since he can't control himself, the next best is the object of his hatred.

Since he can't control us when we know it's him, he has to pretend to be something or someone else. The control isn't absolute though, because he eventually slips and reveals himself, even with the secret/made-up identities. He needs validation and reassurance of who he is, which is the whole reason he's controlling others.

He delights in poking and seeing people react. He wasn't always that way, but that's who he is now. He's reading our conversations about this and loving that we're talking about him, while also seething and hating himself more as we understand him better that he wants to admit. The more he hates himself, the more he projects onto the external thing he's focusing on, and then will find another way to "get one over" on us.

The thing is, men are actually who harmed him and the object of his hatred. But he can't face that, because of all the protections he's built up to feel safe.

It's very hard to come to terms with being the same as the thing that has caused you so much trauma. It's then also very hard to come to terms with the knowledge that your feelings and choices and understanding of reality are actually just reactions from not coming to terms with that realization earlier.

In all sincerity and unironically, that's a lot to unpack. It's not a one-time choice and then done, it's a lifetime commitment and a lot of continual work on oneself. He's not ready for that work yet, so here we are.