Gay MenQuestion - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive?

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[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

The bi people who think the world is bi are also quite delusional too, no offense.

[–]usehername 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Every woman I've ever wanted to be with has turned out to be bi. I didn't know beforehand and they were all traditionally feminine. I think that most bi people, especially women, will never pursue the same sex, and only realize they're actually bi when a person like me takes a chance and goes for them despite zero indication that they are interested in the same sex. I'm sort of getting the impression that homosexuals try not to hit on someone unless they know they are bi/homosexual (is that right?), but I've had great luck with randoms. Maybe I can just smell it lol or I just unconciously know in some way who to pick, but to me, they seem extremely common.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

And how long it lasted? Was it just sex? No, because I'm pretty sure it's very common to be bicurios and wanting experience with same sex when young, but thats actually different than having a strong serious sexual and romantic attraction to the same sex Lots of bicurios girls wanting experience and lots of bi girls wanting sex with female but prefering males for romance or not being able to stay only with female without missing dudes eventually. I think with apps we homosexual nowdays just contact women we know are already searching for women, and all the weird stuff of wondering if she even into the same sex are gone. But even with official bi's you're always have to wonder the nature of their attraction. Many lesbians just are bi allergic and I think they got reason to reject to date bisexual women, even though personally I don't have these kind of dealbreaker because I don't like limiting myself so hard and I fall in love with a person not her orientation.Of course a feminine lesbian will always have the priority

[–]usehername 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

No, there was also an emotional connection, and they enjoyed the sex which would be impossible if they were straight.

Lots of bicurios girls wanting experience and lots of bi girls wanting sex with female but prefering males for romance or not being able to stay only with female without missing dudes eventually.

If she wants and likes sex with other women she's bi, even if she's obsessed with getting the dream het romance white picket fence ending. Most bisexuals are like this, and you and many others may not feel that they're politically useful, but I think if this large chunk of bisexuals were able to properly humanize same-sex attraction and allow themselves to feel a romantic connection to the same-sex, then our movement would really benefit from this because their numbers are huge compared to L&G and even out bis who do like to form emotional connections with the same sex.

Many lesbians just are bi allergic and I think they got reason to reject to date bisexual women

Yeah, I don't mind. It really does happen a lot, just a fact.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

But I don't think bisexuals are more into dudes because they aren't allowing themselves to feel, but more likely because the vast majority of their attraction is into dude which evolutionary makes sense. They might have a minor sexual attraction to women or simply curiosity of staying with a woman but this but they don't really add to our dating poll as women into women.They're great for just sex. A lesbian can get easily lots of pussy, much more than an average man i think. But for anyone wanting a serious relationship, a woman much more emotionally and sexually into men and only into men for actual relationship doesn't count more than any hetero woman.