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[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I may be much older than you, which colors my response quite a bit. I am fairly straightforward about my homosexuality but I don't express any overt sexuality and I find it a bit, well, off-putting when people do (even other gay men). Maybe it's an age or stage-of-life thing, I don't know. I'm perfectly fine talking about Husband in a way that makes it explicit that we are married, but it's much the same way that any straight person would talk about their spouse. The focus is on our life together, not sex.

[–]Retardation_station 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Exactly. Straight people don't walk around expressing our sexuality openly. And those who do are usually quietly pushed away. Very few people want to see or are comfortable with public displays of sexuality.

If I saw a straight dude unironically declaring his straightness (aside from supers, they have a job to do) I likely wouldn't go out of my way to get to know him.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, I definitely understand where you're coming from! Being overly explicit can be off putting. I'm just wondering because currently I'm struggling to express my sexuality in any way. Thank you for your feedback!