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[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This label that I’ve felt so much comfort and security in

This, ladies and gentlemen, is how you can tell she isn't a lesbian. The vast majority of lesbians (me included) have struggled or struggle A LOT with the word 'lesbian' and many of us have done everything to call ourselves everything but lesbian. For example, I still avoid that word and prefer telling I'm a gay woman instead. However, currently due to TQ+, I call myself always homosexual.

Every time I see someone SO obsessed with the label 'lesbian' is always not a lesbian and when I see a woman trying to run away from it, more often than not, she IS the real lesbian 😅 Oh, the irony of it.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Right! Accepting that I was a lesbian and that it was the word that described my sexual orientation was a hard road I travelled. I'm happy being a lesbian now but not because I love the label, it's because accepting the label meant I stopped running from who I was and who I loved and finally just listened to what my body wanted instead of what society said I had to want. It's so demeaning to how hard it is to be homosexual in a heterosexual world when TQ+ pretend that lesbianism isn't about being a female homosexual.

I'm not a lesbian because I want to be, I'm a lesbian because my only other option is being a closeted lesbian and that was miserable. (Guess I could be a straight trans man too, but that sounds worse than miserable...)