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[–]theytookourjerbsXX only. 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (11 children)

I do believe that we should tell young gays and lesbians that you don't need to have sex with the opposite sex to know you're a homosexual, and be positive towards goldstars, but majority of the time, it's only taken seriously online. I've seen people say silverstar lesbians aren't real lesbians, but that's on tumblr and other places.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (10 children)

Whats a silverstar lesbian?

[–]theytookourjerbsXX only. 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (7 children)

A silverstar lesbian is a lesbian that had sex with a man once, and never again. Depending on one's opinion, sex could be anything sexual with the opposite sex, or just PIV and PIA sex.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (6 children)

Emm, then I would be a silver lesbian by this definition, but I never counted it because my experience was too young (like before puberty young) and kinda pretend I never touched a dick, even though technically I did have sexual relationships. In traditional heterosexual culture, complete sex and virginity is only penis in vagina., not oral nor anal. I still don't get why in USA culture anal seem to get higher point than oral as sex. The anus isn't more sex organ than a mouth is, and surely anal doesn't make more sex than oral.

[–]theytookourjerbsXX only. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I feel like it would be fair to say one has lost their virginity with anal and vaginal sex imo, because it does involve penetration, regardless if you're gay, lesbian, straight, or bi.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Technically a blowjob is penetrating too. Also, the fact that must to be penetrative to count is phallocentric bs. And the idea of losing virginity is also bs, there is nothing to lose.Virginity is made up thing like Santa. If anal counts, so does oral. They both sex. The whole idea sex is only valid when penetrating is one of the most phallocentric sexist shit, which constantly put women on women sexual relationships on a lower/less important role than the one involving male.

[–]soundsituationI myself was once a gay 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I honestly agree. Maybe my sexuality biases me--it probably does--but I think physical intimacy should be conceptualized differently: "being sexual" instead of "having sex".

[–]theytookourjerbsXX only. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Well woman on woman sexual relationships can include vaginal and anal sex, but with toys and mouths, but I do agree that anal, vaginal, and oral is sex, otherwise it wouldn't be called sex idk.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't consider toy sex at all. Now if you say fingers, that' different., because that's a person inside But saying putting a toy inside is more valid sex than oral sex (which i an actual person part stimulating)is crazy. It's alo another phallocentric way of thinking. I've seen comment saying lesbians can only "lose virginitity" with toys, which baically saying sex between womn only is valid is there is some plastic toy reminding of a dick, because only a phallo stuck an hole is valid sex.Just fucking bs.

[–]theytookourjerbsXX only. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well saying that lesbians can only lose virginity with toys is bs, I agree. Because a lesbian can lose her virginity with another woman in many different ways, like you mentioned fingers

[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I might be wrong, but I think I'm right about this, a gold star lesbian or gay man has never had sex with the opposite sex. It's a self-deprecating joke that references the gold star stickers little children are given at school when they do well.

A silver star would presumably be a lesbian who's had sex with a man once. I don't think it's slang so much as a play on words.

[–]theytookourjerbsXX only. 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah it's mainly a joke like "You've never had sex with a man? Here's a gold star for you!"