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[–][deleted] 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

She's so... young... to be writing the go-to-hey-read-this treatise... and how long has it been around for already?

[–]reluctant_commenter 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

The blind leading the blind. I wouldn't be surprised if the average age of the people recommending that others read her "masterpiece" is in the mid-teens.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That and mid-life crises of women who feel trapped or bored in marriages from my amateur research. Based on where I am in life now, I can’t really stand to spend any time there even to poke around and take a temperature check because it is so bizarro land. Last I think I was there I was told I’m privileged for being able to leave my marriage. Like no babe, I actually went through the difficult stuff and worked hard to put myself in a position where I can be independent. That’s not “privilege.” All in the context of a post from a woman justifying how she enjoys sex with her husband but is gay and can’t leave her marriage. I just can’t.

[–]reluctant_commenter 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Last I think I was there I was told I’m privileged for being able to leave my marriage. Like no babe, I went actually went through the difficult stuff and worked hard to put myself in a position where I can be independent.

Respect for doing that. I think learned helplessness plays an important part in people's justification for why they don't leave shitty situations. It's scary to think about; it sounds like a ton of energy, and it is; and so people think, "That looks like a big hill, therefore I can't climb it." I'm not sure what the stigma against divorce is like among your age group, but I would imagine that would exacerbate the problem.

All in the context of a post from a woman justifying how she enjoys sex with her husband but is gay and can’t leave her marriage. I just can’t.

Lol, it's so utterly ridiculous.