Virtue SignalingSure, Jan.

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[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 24 insightful - 15 fun24 insightful - 14 fun25 insightful - 15 fun -  (1 child)

Of all the things that ever happened, that happened the most.

[–]julesburm1891[S] 16 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Well, clearly, the only reason anyone disagrees with TRAs is because we’re hateful, lonely losers. It has nothing to do with not appreciating homophobic and misogynistic bullying while also being asked to ignore reality.

[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 22 insightful - 9 fun22 insightful - 8 fun23 insightful - 9 fun -  (1 child)

TL;DR

"I'm sorry for the things I did. You know, the things; they totally happened. Very bad, so sad, all hurtful. So sorry. Grovel, Grovel, grovel."

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 13 insightful - 13 fun13 insightful - 12 fun14 insightful - 13 fun -  (0 children)

Poster of "Apology from an Ex-TERF" on r/actuallesbians

July 2021 (colorized)

[–]TovasshiDefinitely a house plant 22 insightful - 5 fun22 insightful - 4 fun23 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Reading her post history... I call bullshit.

[–]julesburm1891[S] 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Actual Response. Fun fact: I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian home. I don’t mean my family went to church a lot and said grace before dinner. More like, my mom ignored an actual medical condition for 13 years because she was convinced God would heal her. That type of fundamentalist. (Mercifully, my parents have spent the last several years mellowing out to be relatively normal Christians.)

There were three main rules I was supposed to follow for everyone to be happy in this environment.

  1. Don’t question any of the logical gaps or morality with with you’re presented. Just follow us.

  2. Ignore the reality you can see with your own eyes and deduce from your own reason.

  3. Completely ignore your sexual orientation and pretend to be heterosexual.

Needless to say, I failed spectacularly on all three accounts. When I was confronted about this as a teenager, it was framed as me being hateful and selfish because I wasn’t opening my heart for God’s love and I was choosing to hurt God, my family, and our church community by choosing to be a lesbian. Being cast as the villain by everyone around me fucked with my head for years and resulted in subsequent years of self-loathing and self-destructive behavior.

So, forgive me if I’m not tripping over myself to feel guilty for people with the same rules, expectations, and punishments as my parents’ church.

I’ve thought about what I would tell my teenage self if I could travel back in time. My response to this post happens to be the same: This has nothing to do with truth, honor, community, or respect. It certainly has nothing to do with love. It is only someone demanding you bend yourself until you break to make others feel more comfortable. You aren’t selfish. You aren’t crazy for seeing through this. You aren’t the villain here.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (10 children)

She's very young woman. I pity american lesbians, especially the ones on the younger side. Although dating as lesbian is harder anywhere, in USA with the queers and AGP being so powerful, sexist gender roles, top/bottom bullshit and obesity crisis, it seems like hell. Like if I lived in USA I would have already bought a ticket to Europe. Stay strong, my sisters!

[–]julesburm1891[S] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

if I lived in the USA, I would have already bought a ticket to Europe

If only it was that easy. Lol

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Come va l'apprendimento dell'italiano, comunque? :)

[–]julesburm1891[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Prima, l’ho trovato molto difficile. Adesso, capito migliore. Ma, ancora non parlo bennisimo. È una bella lingua. Forse, un giorno, migliorerò.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

La grammatica è più difficile dell'inglese è vero. Sono sicura che migliorerai. Si apprezza sempre quando qualcuno cerca di imparare la tua lingua. A me piace molto l'inglese perchè è una lingua più flessibile dell'italiano.Forse un po' troppo flessibile. Il gender non si traduce nella mia lingua, perchè non esiste il gender neutral.

[–]Destresse🇨🇵 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You know, I've never quite realised how similar our languages are until I read this and understood almost everything with zero knowledge of Italian lol

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They're similar. I watch spanish series and understand it without never learned spanish language before. But you got the sexier accent. I'm jealous lol

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I know isn't easy, damn it really that culture is so toxic, it feels like anyone would do anything to escape it, like the people from Africa who do anything to escape their country and reach Lampedusa. Of course USA isn't comparable to a third world country, but has so much bad and stressful things in its culture, especially now with this AGP trend, makes me really being grateful to have been born in Italy. I wouldnt have the mental resilience to deal with it. I feel like you're some kind of heroes

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 6 insightful - 9 fun6 insightful - 8 fun7 insightful - 9 fun -  (1 child)

Of course USA isn't comparable to a third world country,

[citation needed]

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

:'D

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Not to mention the lack of gendered definite (and indefinite) articles/words/verbs in the English language makes it easier to hijack and change, whereas in something like Serbian, everything is gendered to the point that some tenses would sound bizarre if you had a man saying he was wearing something but using the female past tense for third person: On je nosio vs On je nosila (it's usually 'ona je nosila' for women). Not sure if it's the case in Italian?

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah 13 insightful - 7 fun13 insightful - 6 fun14 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

"I have a sad life and need some free internet hugs. Here's some shit I made up. Give me karma my beloved fellow basement dwellers."

[–]loveSloaneSuperDuperBi 11 insightful - 6 fun11 insightful - 5 fun12 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

So do you think a transman or a transwoman wrote this?

[–]kwallio 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This post was on ovarit, I didn't go digging through her post history but someone else did and I think its a transman.

[–]NeedMoreCoffee~=[,,_,,]=^_^= 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

i'll take door number 2 loveSloane

[–]shveya 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think it was a transwoman looking for attention.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 8 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 4 fun9 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Aka DARVO: Mealy-Mouthed Edition.

Co-author: Albert Einstein. (And, yanno, everyone who clapped.)

[–]serf_n_terfStraight Ally - Surf’s up! 🏄‍♀️ 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

TERFs are the ultimate boogeywoman to these people. Most “TERFs” don’t hate trans people, we just don’t want them in our shit (groups/communities, shelters, bathrooms, change rooms, jails, etc.). Acknowledging material reality is not hate unless you’re emotionally and mentally unwell and hypersensitive. But sure, go on and continue to bash women for not patting you on the head and giving you a gold star uwu

[–]sadbihours 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Just Cult Things.