Even me, who like women who "take more the charge" in a sexual way, so I would be considered technically the "submissive" one, as a lesbian, I HAD to learn to take initiative, to make the first moves, to not be afraid, to take risks. Because yeah, the vast vast majority of women are used to being pursued. To be totally honest, straight and bi women have no idea how privileged they are in dating, they almost don't need to do anything, men will come after them, men will do most of the "job" when it comes to dating, men will do the chasing and when bi women face dating women they'll soon realise how much harder it is. But only bisexual women who actually try for quite a long time to date women do know how hard it is and how much effort and sweat you actually need to put to impress a woman haha. Because bi women who don't actively pursue women will soon realise the other women won't pursue you either and then will constantly blame "omg, I like women so much more, why do I always end up with a man?". I mean, duh? Most of them don't actually do any effort to date women and don't understand that privilege in dating lmao.
I must add that I'm in the most difficult position ever, as I'm not even "visibly" gay, who likes other women who aren't visibly gay. RIP for me haha.