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[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Personally I'm not even against dating someone with these ideas, as long as she doesn't push them on me and doesn't influence my relationship. Like I wouldn't like a political activist. Of course I would prefer someone gender critical or just with logic, but you can't agree on everything. And as long as you compatible on thefundamentals that matter in relationships, sexually, liking each others and generally getting along well. you can tolerate different opinions on this and others kind of matters.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Let me offer a counterpoint to this because I see two rather contradictory trajectories here:

  1. A lot of former TRAs get a clue and stop feeding themselves this nonsense. So, there's hope for some.
  2. One sometimes finds out well into a relationship that one's partner is abusive, might have Cluster B issues, etc. Guess what the risk is there? That you stand up for yourself one day, and this (now you know) professional victim chooses THAT moment to turn on you and run around talking about how transphobic you are.

Think about that risk before dating one of these people. It isn't going to be worth it in the end if they also turn out to be Cluster B. You are still trusting that person with your safety and future, at this point in time. So it's not a small thing to choose carefully.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Mmm. Tra means activists. I won't date activists. I just say, if she just believes trans woman is real woman as she believes astrology is real, they both bull, but if that doesn't effect my relationship, like her being into queer spaces/activism or asking me to pretend she is not binary rather than a female, I don't care. Like I dont compromise on shit like having kids or her being dominant/calling herself a top since I'm not submissive, but believes that doesn't effect me personally, I don't care.