As evidenced by my other post on the notable absence of women trying to convince themselves and others that they’re def not gay for dating a trans man and the lack of media propaganda and Reddit echo chambers like r/sex enforcing that message too, I have to say . . . . This does just feel sad. No one’s buying it. If they did, we wouldn’t be hearing this message.

The other thing that bothers me is that these types of stories (not so much this one) are often presented as “Oh I didn’t know she was a he but I’m such a great person and love her anyway” when the way the stories play out, it does seem to be the case that these men (GAMPs) seek out trans women specifically. As someone on here said, the TW wants to be seen as just a chick but the GAMP views the TW as a chick with a dick specifically.

I have also heard a number of stealthiness stories with last second pre-sex reveals that have a disturbing pattern of the men walking away having an existential crisis and feeling profoundly uncomfortable and violated (as they were on an individual basis but likely also faced some societal pressure in going forward with it) while the TW is dismissive, devoid of empathy, and plays the victim. They are often so casual about it too.